Look at the following beliefs. They are the beliefs of men that aren’t as successful as they’d like to be contrasted with the belief of a Master Seducer. The limiting beliefs are either my own old beliefs or those of customers, and the new ones are my unlimited beliefs!

See where you think you fit on the scale right now, mark and date it and then revisit this each month to see your beliefs shift!.

Notes on belief shifts

One of the key differences between guys that are confident, successful, and positive and guys that aren’t are their beliefs. If you believe in yourself and don’t let beliefs limit your actions or hold you back, you will achieve more.

Shifting your beliefs is something that will happen naturally as you improve yourself and your abilities with women. However, you can speed this process up by making the change more conscious using this post.

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Writing the date is key, if you re-visit this post and update your progress, you will have that sense of achievement and a clear idea that you are moving in the right direction.

How To Reframe Most Common Limiting Dating Beliefs

Belief.

She probably has a boyfriend.

Reframe.

If she is in a bar/club, she is less likely to. You are just a fun sociable guy being friendly, if she has a boyfriend, you can still have a nice interaction and not lose anything. There is always a reason not to approach, you CAN approach any girl you choose. Most pretty girls have boyfriends of some description. You can either increase your female social circle and meet all her friends, or maybe she isn’t so serious about her man and you’ll easily be able to take his place. The average girl in a relationship is single within 3 months.

New Belief

I won’t know until I approach what the situation is, I can approach any woman I want and will act on the information once I know for sure, not before!

Belief.

She will probably reject me.

Reframe.

If you have never driven a car before, do you expect to be able to do everything perfectly the first time? Your goal should be to open until you get comfortable opening, and then focus on making the sets longer and longer. This is a process, and you need to do a certain number of approaches to get through it and learn. Each approach, whether successful or not is an opportunity to learn. The outcome doesn’t matter, what matters is how you deal with it.

New Belief.

An approach is a success in itself

Belief.

I don’t know what to say.

Reframe.

You can fall back on an opener that you know very well. What to say next? This is much harder. In that moment when you run out of things to say and get stuck, if you stick in there, this is when you are really pushing yourself, like the last few reps at the gym. Feel that pressure and learn to enjoy it, and handle it like a man. What you say is less important than how you say it and how comfortable you appear.

New Belief.

What you say is much less important than how you feel in set. It’s when you don’t know what to say that you learn the most.

Belief.

People are watching.

Reframe.

Do you notice conversations going on around you? Do you remember things that happen to strangers? No one is interested in other people, their selfishness will benefit you here. You know you won’t see them again, but you will regret not approaching that girl. Don’t let other people have this kind of power on you, especially strangers. Most guys stay the same and don’t improve, when you are different you will stand out, stop trying to be “normal” and “fit in”. Dare to be different and defy social norms.

New Belief.

This is my reality, I’m working towards my goal and strangers do not deserve the power to dictate my actions.

Belief.

I am too old for her.

Reframe.

It’s completely acceptable and even desirable in most cultures for older men to date younger women. You are competing against guys that lack wisdom, worldliness, experience. You would be surprised by how much women like older men. The logical fact of your age is less important than how she feels when she is with you. If it is not an issue for you, it won’t be an issue for her.

New Belief.

She’s too young for me! My age is an asset!

Belief.

I’m too young for her.

Reframe.

If you are 19 and she is 25, all the men her age are serious and focused on their work. It’s great to meet someone that knows how to have fun. Lots of women have fantasies about a younger guy, they think that they can find someone more pure who isn’t yet corrupted! Our trainers range from 19 to 35, and they ALL pull women of any age they like because they don’t see age as a factor. If you think it is a big deal, they will too, if you don’t they won’t!

New Belief.

What is important is how I make her feel.

I hope you have gotten the idea how you can reframe your old negative beliefs and turn them into your strength.