Each of us is born with the same purpose—to express and extend God’s love and light. This is our life’s “work,” and while we all have a similar job to do, specifically what we do and how we do it varies from person to person based on our individual strengths and talents. Recognizing your uniqueness is what many in my woo-woo psychic circles call “standing firmly in your truth” and “aligning with your purpose.” All this means is that the key to living a purposeful life lies in identifying how best you can be a vehicle for God’s divine love and light. The wise Viktor Frankl said, “Everyone has his own specific vocation or mission in life; everyone must carry out a concrete assignment that demands fulfillment. Therein he cannot be replaced, nor can his life be repeated, thus, everyone’s task is unique as his specific opportunity to implement it.” In other words—you’ve got an important job to do that only you can do. Do you know what that is?

Not sure? Welcome to the human race.

What I see day after day in the faces of the people I pass on the street, stand in line behind at my neighborhood Starbucks, and sweat alongside at the gym is a like minded look of disconnect. So many of us still haven’t connected the dots between who we to help you see your life more clearly and find the answers you me in the closer to Godadil are and what we’re meant to do in this life. So many of us simply don’t know what it means to be human, and as a result we feel utterly lost. We drive around in circles, go left when we should go right, chase after relationships, careers, and physical and monetary goals that only lead to unfulfilling dead ends.

We all know someone whose life choices have seemed misguided, don’t we? The guy, for example, who chases the dream of becoming an actor when everyone around him can clearly see that his temperament and skills are more suited for teaching third grade math. I once knew someone like this —she used to stare back at me in the mirror every morning! Thankfully, Grandma Babe came through when she did and helped me recognize my unique radiance, my true calling. And yet I’m no different, no more special than you. If our life’s work is to express and extend our radiance—God’s love and light—then I’ve just figured out the best way for me to get the job done. Understand that we each approach life’s work differently. For some it may be through art; others might be called to heal, while others gravitate toward teaching, science, or business.

In what direction do you feel called? Ask yourself, What is it that I love to do? What am I naturally good at? What comes easy? It’s important that you let go of other people’s projections of who you should be and what you should do. Instead, go inward. Don’t think, feel. What does your intuitive wisdom tell you? Ask yourself, What lights me up and makes me feel alive?

When you do whatever it is you were born to do in this lifetime, you’ll know it. When you’re “standing firmly in your truth” and “aligned with your purpose,” your life expands from one of mere existence where you’re going through the day-to-day motions, to one where you’re excited and lit up each and every day.

Amy, a girlfriend of mine, shared that her parents had dedicated their professional lives to the medical field. Her mother was a nurse and her dad was a well-known doctor. Both of her parents expected Amy to follow in their footsteps, and since Amy believed she was wired like they were, she willingly took steps toward fulfilling their expectations. She earned a prestigious degree, and soon after, she accepted an internship position in a renowned hospital, working on a groundbreaking trial. She was on her way! Except she was bored out of her mind. Every day, as she walked the halls of the hospital, she dreamed about doing something else, something that felt more like her. After months and months of struggling with her chosen career path, Amy left medicine to pursue floral design. Needless to say, her dad was bewildered and not at all pleased. But Amy didn’t care because she soon discovered that working as a florist lit her up in a way that medicine never had. It awakened her spirit. When friends and colleagues questioned this rather unexpected career change, she simply explained that floral design felt right.

Amy’s been managing her own business for eight years now. She’s as happy as can be. She says her dad still shakes his head, not understanding why she wouldn’t want to do something “bigger,” and she just smiles. She doesn’t expect him to get it. Medicine is all he knows, and it’s what he was called to do. Amy was called in a different direction, and neither road is better than the other. Amy’s truth was not her father’s, and his was not hers. Big deal. You see, it’s not what you do that’s important; what matters most is expressing your divine and unique radiance whatever you do.

once made a connection with the spirit of a man who ended his life after suffering for years from severe depression. Through clairvoyance and clairsentience, he communicated to me that it wasn’t until he died and went through a life review process that he fully understood the root of his unhappiness—he hadn’t lived his truth. He’d worn the mask of a successful lawyer. Like Amy, he had followed in the footsteps of his father, pursuing a professional path that from a young age he’d felt was expected of him. And yet what he really wanted to do was be a musician. Music called to him, but sadly he never followed the calling and spent many years being frustrated, resentful, lonely, and ultimately, unfulfilled.

In what direction do you feel called? What do you ache for? What sustains you? If you, too, are guilty of wearing a mask that only serves to cover your divine radiance within, or if you’re still struggling with self-doubt, unclear about what your unique gifts are and where your talents are meant to take you, try answering the following questions to help spark clarity within:

1. What makes you smile? (activities, people, events, hobbies, projects, etc.)
2. What were your favorite things to do in the past? What about now?
3. What activities make you lose track of time?
4. What makes you feel great about yourself?
5. Who inspires you most? (family, friends, authors, artists, leaders, etc.) Which qualities inspire you in each person?
6. What are you naturally good at? (skills, abilities, gifts, etc.)
7. What do people typically ask you for help in?

And

8. If you had to teach something, what would you teach?
9. If you could effectively get a message across to a large group of people, who would those people be?
10. What would you regret not fully doing, being, or having in your life?

If you’re still unclear how best to express your unique radiance, ask yourself, Who aren’t I? What road don’t I want to go down? According to the Universal Law of Polarity, everything has an opposite. In readings, I simply cannot tell you how often spirits support the law of polarity when offering relationship advice. For example, I once read a woman named Ellen who confided in me up front that she was seeking help from the unseen world about her current relationship. I was clairvoyantly shown a vision of a messy room, which is my sign for sloppy. I said, “Are you dating a guy who’s sloppy, unclean, or who you consider to be emotionally a mess?” She tentatively nodded her head. I got the strong claircognizant impression from Spirit that her current relationship was meant to provide her with clarity and direction. I said, “It looks like your current boyfriend has shown up in your life to serve as an example of the opposite of what you need.” Her guides clairvoyantly showed me ducks in a row, my sign for organization. I told Ellen, “They’re telling me that you’re meant to be with someone who matches your level of cleanliness and order.”

So who are you?

I’m constantly reminded by my guides to “just be me.” No kidding, I clairaudiently hear them whisper these very words into my ear. They’ve been drilling this message into my head for as long as I can remember. Before any reading I do, whether for an individual or a group of three hundred, I quietly repeat these words, trust in them, and relax into myself. As soon as I do, I become a clear and open conduit for Spirit, able to pass along important messages from the dead to the living. The profound healing and transformation that my natural abilities provide are my validation that just being me is the purposeful work I’m meant to do in this lifetime.