How To Become A Great Hypnotist
As you are building you hypnotic skills, keep in mind the difference between complexity and sophistication. If you ever start to feel confused, take a step back, and build up from a strong foundation. As you master each step, you can discover how much easier the next step is.
Fake It Till You Make It
One of the fastest ways of mastering hypnosis is to simply fake it till you make it now, the reason for doing this is because it actually takes away a lot of pressure from you to perform in a particular way. This is important because it allows you to easily master each step in turn (again, complexity vs. sophistication). I’ll go over the specific steps later, but the important thing to keep in mind is that as you are performing hypnosis, you can choose to focus on a single step at a time, allowing your unconscious to fill in the gaps.
It is important to let go of any preconceptions of what hypnosis should be or how you should feel or not feel as a hypnotist. Every person experiences hypnosis in their own way, and if you try to force people to conform to your expectations, you might occasionally have difficulty getting trance responses from some people. On the other hand, if you are open to whatever comes along, you allow yourself to continually grow as a hypnotist, and give people beautiful experiences. In addition, how you feel as a hypnotist may change as your abilities grow, so it is important to allow your feelings to shift and grow with your skill level.
Correct Practice Equals Mastery
If you want to learn how to ride a motorcycle, you could spend a lot of time perfecting how to use a bicycle, which will certainly help to some extent, but just because you are an expert bicycle rider doesn’t necessarily mean that you can expect to hop onto a Harley Davidson and be able to drive off into the sunset safely. A motorcycle is much heavier than a bicycle, there are lots of extra controls, and everything behaves differently at high speed.
In the same way, we all know how to say words, form sentences and communicate ideas. This course gives you the other tools and experiences you will need to quickly and easily build up your hypnotic skills so that you can safely and competently roar off into the sunset.
The Pygmalion effect refers to the fact that you typically get what you expect. Robert Rosenthal and Lenore Jacobsen performed a scientific study where they found that students performed as well, or as poorly as their teachers expected them to perform.
People conform to your expectations. So, if you expect that someone will be difficult to hypnotise, they will. Even better, if you expect someone to be easily hypnotised, they will be easily hypnotised.
As you increase your hypnotic skills, you can expect someone to be in hypnosis, and they will become hypnotised, and you didn’t even need to do anything, consciously.
The Most Important Hypnotic Principles To Become A Great Hypnotist
Hypnosis With Positive Intentions
Whenever you are interacting with people hypnotically, you should have “H+” foremost in your mind. You are intending to induce a Hypnotic trance (H) coupled with an intention to do something positive for that person (+).
This communicates to everyone else on a non-verbal level that great things are about to happen, and that you can be trusted.
When people come to you for help, they come in with a kind of “H-” attitude; they have managed to hypnotise themselves into believing their story of doom & gloom so strongly, that they unconsciously project their feelings onto others. If you are not careful, you can easily find yourself hypnotised into believing that they have a horrible problem that there is no solution to!
The trick is to have a stronger H+ than their H-, to see the solution stronger than they see their problem.
What do I mean by ‘going first’?
Well, every thought that you have affects you physically and emotionally. And those, in turn, will affect the way you behave, and the way you speak and say things – the way you perform things.
So, if you try to tell someone that you like them, it’s very difficult to do that if in your mind you hold conflicting thoughts and ideas – the lie leaks out of you in subtle little signals.
In order to be able to put the right meaning behind those words, you have to be able to get into the state of mind first, which will allow you to deliver it completely congruently.
Where Attention Goes, Energy Flows
Now, when I say energy, it is not necessarily a mystical force or Jedi mind powers. It is simply psychological energy, some emotional content, or the motivation that drives behaviours.
If I say “don’t think about a black cat’, you may find it difficult to not think about a black cat. However, if I say “don’t think about a black cat curling around your leg, purring in delight as she licks the back of your hand with her rough tongue’, you will find it even more difficult to not think about a black cat, because more details demand more attention which draws in more psychological energy to the thing you were not meant to be thinking about in the first place!
Law of Compounding Effect
The simple suggestion below has more power than initially meets the eye:
You are a non-smoker AND you are happy
Now when you suggest that they are happy, it actually reinforces the non-smoker part as well. So the unconscious thinks: “l am a happy non-smoker”.
If you then add:
You are a great person
It reinforces both the fact that they are a non-smoker and that they are happy and that they are a great person!
As a general rule of thumb, any suggestion you give will reinforce all the preceding suggestions that you have given during the current state of hypnosis. The more suggestions you give, the more layers of reinforcement get added, and the stronger all of your suggestions become. There are exceptions to this rule, but they are rare.
Now is the moment of power.
Attention is the basic unit of human interaction, and having a strong presence prevents distracting ideas from diluting or interfering with what you are doing.
In general, the more attention someone has on something, the less the critical factor can interfere with the idea, because all the energy is required on the attention itself. So, the more attention you have from the other person, the easier time you will have getting results.
Now, technically speaking, all that you require is their attention. However, people tend to be very reciprocal, so if you are distracted, they will be distracted too. If on the other hand, you are totally present, totally focused on them, it sucks their attention into that “Now”-ness as well, it arrests their attention at that point, and that is what you want to do.
Trance is an attention stimulating state. Your attention gets increased, your ability to focus increases, your presence increases. As a hypnotist in a hypnotiser’s trance you are letting sub-communication go out that encourage your subject to go into trance too.
As a bonus, your fears and concerns go away, because they require a critical factor to interfere. At the same time, you feel good, and you are modelling they way the other person should be as well. You are modelling them getting past their fears and concerns, and into this state which is pure attention: “What’s happening next?”
Every time someone goes into hypnosis, they are learning to go into hypnosis. It’s easier for them to access the trance deeper than before.
Now, every time you put your client into hypnosis and bring them out, the next time they will go deeper. This means that when your clients come back for a follow-up session, they will have an even more profound experience than the previous time. In addition, you can put them through several cycles of hypnosis within the same session to access a very deep state of hypnosis.
When you practice hypnotherapy, you want to follow the 3Rs:
When someone comes to you with a problem, it only means they have forgotten where the right resource is which will help them solve the problem. When you find the resources they need and attach them to the problem, the problem vanishes. Approximately 85% of the time, this process will make the problem easily dissolve and go away.
If they get stuck in a loop where a problem just isn’t budging, you use the problem to bring them back into a regression where you help them resolve the root of the problem. The combined resource and regress patterns handle 95/” of the cases that people will come to you with.
Reintegration is the final step in the chain. You rarely need to take it. It’s only appropriate if the other two approaches have worked for a while, but then inexplicably they fail. It solves the problem where the positive change gets made, but 2 weeks or 2 months down the line they come back with the same problem . Something made it come back – that something is called a Secondary Gain. The Reintegration Technique takes care of that!
Resource, Regress, and Reintegrate, in that order.
These are the only manoeuvres you need to know. You’ll learn methods to do these things, and then you can let go of the methods, and do anything that does each of these things, following this pattern to create lasting positive change in everyone you work with.