Pre-selection is very important for attraction. Pre-selection is basically the idea of demonstrating or verbalizing that you get women. The reason that this works is through the idea of social proof or group think. If all of these girls think you’re cool, then new girls you meet will think that you’re cool too, because they will think, “Oh, these three girls think he is cool, he must be cool.”

Pre-selection is very, very powerful. It is psychologically proven through a variety of experiments that social proof works, and pre-selection is a form of social proof. It’s a specific form of showing girls—or telling girls, that women are attracted to you. It’s basically like getting a testimonial.

Pre-selection generally can happen in two ways. You can verbalize it. Talk about an ex-girlfriend, they don’t have to be a model or a stripper or anything like that, just a pretty ex-girlfriend. You can talk about how you have a lot of female friends; you can talk about how you have one really close friend that you used to date.

You can talk about how you date around a lot; you can talk about how girls like you. You can get into some play stuff, but in general, just mentioning an exgirlfriend is usually enough to verbalize it. You want to verbalize like you’re not a loser, you have dated women before, that women do find you attractive.

Now verbalization is obviously not as powerful as demonstration, and demonstration is pretty easy. You go into a bar and you’re having some conversations with girls in front of other women. You talk to one group of girls and then you go, “Okay, I really need to go find my friends”, and then you talk to another group of girls.

You have them see that. You can even balance between the two groups—
introduce them, whatever. If you have a female friend who comes out with you, if you go out with a group of female friends, if you know bartenders and they hug you when they see you walk into a club— anything that shows girls are interested in you, it builds that pre-selection.

I do want to say you will want to be careful with that because, while you can build pre-selection, you can also build what’s known as player vibe, and that is decidedly not helpful because that will make it seem that you’re just a player
and you’re just out to get laid. So be careful with the demonstration, but demonstration is better than verbalization for sure.