You Must Have Confidence (Dating And Relations)
This is something there is no way around.
If you do not have confidence in your approach when you tell a woman you’re interested in her this will not work. Period.
The reason it won’t work is because the confidence is the “hook” that is going to get a woman interested and attracted. If you have looks a woman might be a little more forgiving but overall the confidence and certainty with which you approach her, and how strong your “take what I want” attitude is will be the crucial factor In how she responds.
This will only work if you approach her from a genuine place and let her know that you are interested in her as a human being.
Women understand that men are naturally attracted to them for their looks – women are attracted to guys for their looks in the same way… they get hit on constantly and it’s no big secret; you’re not apologizing for being a man but you are telling her you are interested in her as a person.
I’m sure you have heard the quote, “we like those who like us.” This rings true for women far more than men; they like a man who is interested in them whereas we like a woman as long as she has a cute face and a tight body.
A typical direct opener is executed when you see a beautiful woman at a club, mall, coffee shop, on the street or wherever.
For example, walk up to her confidently and use an opener such as:
I just wanted to say that you look absolutely adorable today and I want to get to know you.
I like you and I want to get to know you.
I think you’re incredibly attractive and I want to get to know you.
[I have never said this before but] you are one of the prettiest girls here and I mean it sincerely. I’d like to get to know you.
I say you over there, you are exceptionally beautiful and I would like to get to know you to see if you are as sweet as you are beautiful.
Hey, I saw you from over there and I really want to meet you. I’m [your name here]
As you move forward you will come up with your own natural and creative openers as time goes on.
I even used this one on a beautiful girl I saw walking by at the mall: Hey….I don’t know you…and, you don’t know me…and, we’re at the mall….and, I just interrupted you while you were walking….BUT, what I’m most curious about is…is this beautiful woman I’m talking to…a friendly person?”
Here’s one more example I’ve used…
Me: “Hey what are you up to sitting her by yourself”
Her: “Oh I’m…” Me: “Hey, I noticed you over there and I was curious about something.”
Her: “haha what?”
Me: “There’s a wicked cute girl next to me and I’m wondering if she is as friendly as she is beautiful.”
And guess what?
We ended up in the food court on an instant date.
Perhaps the greatest benefit of direct approach is its efficiency… if she blows you out you haven’t invested anything in to the interaction and can simply move on.
The reason people like the direct approach is because it is quick and easy.
What a woman finds most attractive is a man who is confident and not afraid to show he is interest in her.
The hard thing and the reason most people try to shy away from direct openers is because of fear of rejection and the fact that proper execution (in an alpha manner) requires unshakable inner confidence; it’s not so much what you say but how you say it which is where normal guys get themselves totally blown out of the water trying to attract a woman this way.
But why do most men get blown out of the water?
The reason is because when most men see an attractive woman they get all sorts of emotions pumped into their body which cloud their judgment and disable their ability to think clearly.
When an ordinary man sees an attractive woman what happens?
Your blood pressure, heart rate and adrenaline increases.
Your goal should be learning to control these feelings; act like you meet women everyday and are Mr. Confident
What direct approach is all about is appealing to a woman’s sense of emotion and make her feel like her prince charming has arrived and the moment was meant to be.