Are You A Nice Guy? Time To Find Out
Good old Mr. Reliable. Every step of the way you know exactly what he is going to do and where he is going to be. He is the perfect guy; caring, affectionate, loving and boring.
This is the scenario where the woman knows where he is at every step of the way and knows that he’s “thinking of her” and that he’s going to McDonalds for lunch every night but only on every 3rd Wednesday of the month.
The “nice guy” is not a mentality we are born in to but more a mentality that we are taught. Throughout life we are conditioned to either go in and take what we want or we are taught to try to be nice and make sure we are conforming to the world around us… either way we are taught to be something other than ourselves.
A lot of men in this world tend to live in la-la land. This is characterized by the mentality of:
“Life isn’t fair. Women need to realize what wonderful guys like me really have to offer them.”
Well here’s a reality check: It is not going to happen!
You need to figure out what’s wrong and you need to figure out how you’re going to fix it. You’re either going to sit around complaining about how fate doesn’t accommodate you and be miserable the rest of your life or you’re going to decide that you’re going to accept your life, right at this moment, is what it is and you’re going to do whatever it takes for however long it takes to find eventual happiness where you’ll no longer have to worry.
Sorry I got a bit off on a rant there but back to my main point, humans love to complain about what life isn’t yet are just as unwilling to accept their reality and take responsibility for making it better.
We’re always looking blame Apple for our iPod’s motherboard burnout just so we don’t have to be accept that we mishandled or misused our iPod.
“I never misused my iPod; it was all Apple’s fault!”
Now that example is a bit random but you get the point.
This is what has been coined “wishful thinking” by many “experts”.
So why is this so important to realize? Because the sooner you come to terms with the fact that your life is what it is and start looking for ways to change it the better off you will be. Maybe you won’t have happiness now either way but at least you’ll feel better knowing there’s something to look forward too.
Too many humans are stuck inside their own heads. They are either dwelling on the past or focusing on the present but very rarely do humans think about how to create their futures they want and better themselves. Even when they’re learning they are focused on where they are now.
If you are one of the few that focus on creating your future than congratulations because you are going to go very far!
How many times have you heard a woman talk about how tired she is of the same old losers hitting on her?
When I am meeting a woman I will approach her head on with, “you are absolutely beautiful and I wanted to meet you” or whatever I am feeling at the moment. I’m not saying opening in a more subtle way is wrong but lying about things paves a tough road for you.
I realize this may sound strange for you and you might even be going so far as to think that I must need be the sexiest man alive to pull this off.
Well, at the risk of sounding full of myself I am going to go out on a limb and say I am.
Do you know why?
Hint: It has very little to do with my bone structure, skin tone or anything physical.
I’m being confident and by doing so becoming the most attractive guy in the world to a woman.
With women perseverance and confidence are a must.
A woman’s mood is not like yours. Her body is run by emotions far more than yours is and if she isn’t “feeling it” and five minutes later, whether it’s in bed, on a date or anywhere she will let you know because her body will regulate her behavior and she will go into a certain mood without any conscious effort.
We do the same thing to a certain extent.
I’m guessing you want me to get to what my point was in telling you all of this?
My point is that your success has far more to do with how you carry yourself than what you say or how you look.
The issue attractive women have with most guys is that they will hit on her by being anything but themselves.
They will either act too macho or too wimpy. They are trying to be what they think she wants because they are too ashamed of who they really are to show her that.
She is waiting for a man to approach her with confidence in whatever way he chooses to do it.
One of the most attractive things about confident men is their unpredictability. I don’t mean they intentionally act spontaneous necessarily but they are not worrying about impressions or trying to hold up a certain image and therefore will be naturally spontaneous.