Don’t Be A Quitter And Live Like A Man
You should never give up on your dreams and goals.
No matter how much you have to suffer the only way you are ever going be happy is through persistence.
Most people are not born with raw talents nor do most people have success handed to them like socialites such as the Hiltons or the Olsen twins.
If you’re unhappy with your life for the moment you’ve just got to accept that.
But you’ve also got to recognize that the only way you’re EVER going to be happy is if you’re willing to do whatever it takes to change and make your life better.
Maybe your life is bad… hell mine was terrible growing up. But you’re going to have to be miserable for now and unless you’re willing to do whatever it takes to change you’re going to be miserable down the road unless you totally commit yourself to achieving happiness down the road.
You can only work from where you are and as much as that sucks it’s the best you can do.
It will make you a better person in the long run because you will appreciate the value of success (I didn’t say the value of hard work) and you will understand that anything is within your reach.
And I can tell you from experience there is nothing like having hard work (if necessary) behind you and in your past.
The only time that it is worth folding your deck of cards is when you are faced with a situation that is impractical.
A popular one guys email me about is how they want to get back together with their estranged ex when in reality it would simply be easier to just meet a new woman who will love you the way you deserve – you can always find someone else to make you happy in this situation.
Following The Herd
“The greatest difficulty is that men do not think enough of themselves, do not consider what it is that they are sacrificing when they follow in a herd, or when they cater for their establishment”
– Ralph Waldo Emerson
Did you ever stop to think about how much or your beliefs, views and personality was crafted by things you were told, taught or read?
It is really striking when you consider that most of the average human’s personality is estimated to be comprised of 95-99 percent external teachings. That means more than 95% of the stuff you think or believe was taught to you by someone or something else.
The problem with this is that people are so accustomed to having their ideas, beliefs and views spoon-fed to them from childhood that they don’t stop to ever figure out the world for themselves and essentially become drones.
What is even more fascinating is that, like most other things, the only reason we do this is because it is what we were taught to do from childhood, and we never really stopped to think about it.
Following others beliefs has a profoundly negative effect on a person’s life and creates behaviors that are characterized by:
Self-destructiveness
Fear
Self-confidence issues
Self-esteem issues
If you’re not willing to change however there is not a damn thing I or anyone else can do for you.
There is only one person who can get you to change.
Have you ever heard people talk about drug addicts? Well it’s not much different here; if you’re not willing to admit to your problems and change there is nothing I can help you with.
Setting Limits
As a man you are expected to be in control of your own actions and your own destiny. As such, you should never let a woman decide how you should live your life. You should always be responsible for whatever happens to you in a relationship. Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “no one can make you feel inferior without your consent”… And this is true of relationships as well.
If a woman is mistreating you or disrespecting you call her on it and take whatever actions are necessary to correct the problem – change yourself, not her. When I say correct the problem I don’t mean correct it the way your 6’7 airheaded friend would it by beating her into a bloody pulp because that would be blaming her.
What I mean is if she is mistreating you don’t be afraid to lay down the law or even walk out on the relationship. You are your own person; your feelings and your life are your choice. Another common thing that goes along with setting limits is jealousy. As a confident male who recognizes that if his relationship doesn’t work out he simply needs to go out and find a new one, you have no need to be jealous.