How To Never Run Out Of Things To Talk About
In this post i am going to share a simple yet effective techniques to keep the conversation flowing and that
ASK A SET UP QUESTION
The number one best way to transition, in my opinion, is asking what’s called a set up question. A set up question is basically what politicians do all the time. If you’ve ever noticed, politicians, when they want to talk about something, it’s very rare that they will just outright start to talk about it. Instead, they will ask a question.
Such as, “Have you guys heard about the rumors that I want to raise taxes?”, and then they’ll proceed to talk about whatever they want to talk about—raising taxes or not raising taxes. We can do the same thing. For
example, if I start a conversation with a girl and I want to talk about my niece, I might say something like, “Do you have nieces or nephews yet?” And the girl might say yes or no, it doesn’t really matter. The whole point of a set up question is that all I’m trying to do is introduce the topic. I’m not really that concerned with what her answer is. If she has nieces, or if she doesn’t have nieces, I’m going to talk about the same things.
The only problem with a set up question as transition is that you have to know what you want to talk about. That’s why, in the last section, I talked about making those lists of topics of things you like talking about, topics you think women are interested in.
It’s really important you have those topics because otherwise you don’t have anything to ask as a set up question. So if you don’t have anything to talk about, then asking a set up question isn’t going to help you, and you’re just going to basically fall into the “asking questions” trap that a lot of guys get into, such as, “Where are you from? What do you do? Where do you go to college? Cool—do you want to hang out some time?” We don’t want to do that. Asking a set up question is a specific tactic; it’s done to get to a subject
If I’m talking to a girl about something I want to buy for my niece, let’s say I’m in a store shopping, and I want to get off the subject of talking about buying something for my niece, which may or may not be true, I can ask a question like, “Do you ever do karaoke?”. Then I can tell a story about karaoke, or I can talk about karaoke.
You don’t have to be super logical with your set up question, but you do need to give an excuse. The same way that we need to give an excuse when we move a girl, we need an excuse for just asking a set up question.
If I ask a random question like, “Do you ever do karaoke?” I might say, “You look like a singer, that’s why I asked.” You just want to have “The reason I asked is…” when you’re asking a set up question, in case it is out of the blue, or weird, or random; you want to just have, “The reason I asked is” ready, and usually you can just make a compliment there. That’s the best thing to do, because then people will be happy that you’re complimenting them