Body language is like a secret language that most men fail to grasp the importance of.

But, it is a key part of your confidence that is going to make you into the ultimate alpha male.

Body language is perhaps the most understated form of communication to most people. You will hear me say this many times but women are far better readers of subtlety than men.

Now that we’ve got that out of the way, let’s talk about the part that tends to interest guys the most…how to read women.

For starters, women give out signals which are used by her natural mate-seeking instincts to tell a man around her that she wants to be approached whether she is conscious of them or not.

It’s like her free will to conceal her attraction from you is stripped away and she her mating instincts obligate her to tell you that she is attracted to you. These tells are one of God, the universe or whatever’s greatest gifts to man.

Women tend to be much more in tune to body language then men. It’s not because they choose to but because they unconsciously develop a natural ability to read in to what others do and say from a young age because their attraction mechanism is largely depending on being able to read in to people to find the best potential mate.

From a woman’s perspective, confidence, comfort and security are her top priorities in searching for a man. Fortunately for those of us who know what we’re doing women are excellent judges of real, natural behavior and if you are being fake there is good chance she will pick it out a mile away; she is always going to be trying to figure out what is going on inside your head.

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One key thing that is going to make you much more successful with women has nothing to do with how you look, act or behave but how well you can read in to how she looks, acts and behaves.

I’m going to rapid-fire a list of indicators that will help you identify relatively quickly if a woman is into you and if you’re going in the right direction.

Make sure when you’re watching that special girl that you’re keeping one eye out (or two!) for these signals because by reading in to them and knowing when and how to act you will make yourself much more successful than simply changing your own behavior ever will.

If you get a handful of these signals, it is generally a dead giveaway that you are headed in the right direction.


Stroking or playing with hair

Touching you

Licking/puckering her lips


Dilated pupils

Heavy eye contact

Rapid eye shifting

Holding eye contact longer than usual

Playing with hair while maintain eye contact

Moving from your eyes to lips in a sort of triangular motion


Smiling (especially when she catches you looking)

Rubbing her tongue against the front of her cheek

Stroking her chin or cheeks

Tossing her hair over her shoulders


Thrusting forward

Nervous fidgeting

Pointing her torso in your direction

Finding excuses to be near you

Rubbing up against you by accident or on purpose

Spreading her legs

Prominent breasts

Mirroring body language

Crossed legs pointed toward you

Displaying and/or stroking thighs

Stroking/playing with hands

Subtly touching breasts

Tilting her head slightly

Stroking/playing with a necklace or other object


Mirroring speed/tone of voice

Unusually rapid speech

Laughing at your stupid jokes

Picking up the conversation when you stop talking.

Extra Giggliness

Cutting you off while you’re speaking to somebody else or cuts off with laughter or other comments

Finding excuses to talk to you

Checking out if you have a girlfriend

Asking about you (name, age, work, ect.)

Calling you a player or something similar

Now these are just a few things and I’m sure there are millions of others but keep an eye out for these things to get you started.

Some key points:

Dilated Pupils

This only works in general lighting situations. If the atmosphere is too light her pupils will naturally contract and if the atmosphere is too dark her pupils will naturally dilate.

When you’re talking to a woman you always want to keep a careful watch on her eyes. As long as you are in the right conditions this one is very reliable guys!

Always watch what she is doing with her hands.

This is one of a woman’s biggest tells if she is attracted to a man. She will typically be stroking anything and everything around her
(Except that…yes I know what you and your dirty mind were thinking! 😉

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Some of the standard stuff includes a necklace, pencil, drinking glass, clothing, ect.

Always watch for side-glances when she’s nearby.

This is another popular one a lot of men I have met overlook. When a woman is attracted to a man she will usually make frequent side long glances without shifting her head. Usually she will only look until the man notices her then she will quickly proceed to look away.

If you haven’t noticed this it is not your fault by any means. As men we don’t typically have this ability so we don’t think of a sidelong glance as a way of observing something in detail.

While we all have the ability within our brains to develop this perception most men generally do not. As I said before it is not our fault it’s just that we do not have a real need to develop it to aid our primal success.

Women naturally develop far better peripheral vision than men so that they can infer and observe everything that is going on around them and ensure that they are able to be “in tune” with everything as their attraction mechanism depends on it.

However, I want it to be understood that this is not because you’re a man and she is a woman. Like anything else we developed the skills we needed out of necessity.

I once had someone do an experiment with me a while back that she told me would “expand my perception.” Anyway, someone had me walk around using a special pair of glasses that only allowed me to see out of the sides of my eyes.

At first I found it irritating, cumbersome and frustratingly hard to cope with but when I took them off it was a real eye opener. (no pun intended)

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Now, after this experiment I did on and off for almost a month to re-develop my perception and after a month I was amazed at how differently I began to see the world.

My first “oh wow” experience came when I was at a crosswalk and I began to clearly notice people walking up to the crosswalk.

I suddenly found myself noticing people at crosswalk across the street and very clearly notice what people were doing in their cars out of the far corner of my eye and to this day my brain still maintains this ability clear as the day I trained it.

After a woman starts giving you signs of interest one of the most important things that will create success is how quickly you act. I have met many guys who consider it a sort of “done deal” once a woman is interested in and attracted to them. This is not the case at all.