The Irresistible Ideals In Men and Women (Attraction Secrets)
Women say they want to find a “good man” they can love. This is true to some degree. Women rate “love” as the most significant need they want fulfilled in a man. However, reality is different from our beliefs. Love is wonderful but women seem to be attracted to other characteristics and traits long before love develops.
One recent study revealed t hat 22% of American women are still feminists but feminism hasn’t slowed 5 billion years of evolution. What women want in the new millennium hasn’t changed much from what women wanted millions of years ago! So, what is it that attracts a woman to a man?
Men at Work
There is no question that women respect and look for a man who works hard, more than just about any trait or characteristic. If a man is not afraid of hard work, she knows that she will always be cared for. A man who is willing to work long hours is seen tenacious and someone who is reliable. Women know at some level that a man who works long hours is a person who is able to bring st ability. especially in terms of financial reward. Women, on average. are attracted to men who work hard. Women don’t normally consciously think, “oh, good, he works 12 hours days therefore I will have plenty of resources in my life.” They simply see the man for the industrious worker that he is and intuitively know that this is the kind of a man who could supply her with what she will need to live a potentially happy life.
Of all the characteristics a man can have this is one of the most important t hat women look for consciously and unconsciously.
If a man wants to be irresistible to women he needs to Subtly let them know that he works hard, frequently long hours, and that he isn’t afraid to do so in the future.
The Man Who Persists
Women often complain about men who continually call them on the phone, but be aware, women admire persistence in a man. Women like to see a man who can get up after he falls down and get back into the game. The ability to fail and then go back at it (whatever “it” is) is something women are drawn to. Women know that there will be tough times in life and when they see someone who fails and is not deterred they get a sparkle in their eye.
More marriages have been made than lost by a man who called a woman until she said. “yes” than you might imagine. The quality of persistence is something men need to develop if they are to be taken seriously as attractive. A man’s persistence is a trait that is culturally admired by both men and women.
People who persist tend to succeed, and that is just one reason why women ultimately say “yes” to persistent men.
Men on Top
Women find men who have risen to ‘the top’ most appealing. The top could be the CEO of a business, the pinnacle of their profession, the leader in a church organization or the top of any group. A man who is at or near the peak of the pyramid is someone who probably can give her the security and safety that she needs. Men at the top make more money than men on the bottom. Men at the top obviously have more power than men at the bottom of the pyramid. Power certainly is an aphrodisiac and money (resources) comes from the proper use of power. Money buys security, stability and allows for a more flexible lifestyle.
How important is money?
Almost all women surveyed in study after study indicate they want to be with a man who makes more money than they do. (Men on the other hand couldn’t care less if a woman earns more than he does!) One woman recently said to me, “If he doesn’t make more than I do. what is the point’?”
Men at the top have the respect of their peers and this is important to women. Women feel good when the man they a re interested in is not only able to provide them with financial rewards but also a certain level of prestige. More important than physical appearance to most women is a ma o’s level of authority or success.
At some unconscious level, women find men attractive who may be able to offer certain rewards and benefits that most other men cannot give. Above all else, women seem to prefer men who have resources. Resources could include money, the potential for the acquisition of money, advanced education, status among peers or even the ability to supply t he basic life needs (home. food. transportation, clothing etc.) Resources, in short, are those things that allow you to have security in all of its many facets.
Women thrive and enjoy life when they experience security and stability. Women want security for themselves and for their children. If a man has resources, a woman feels more comfortable in entering into a relationship with t hat man. Generally speaking, long·term relationships, like marriage, are best for women when compared to having many short-term relationships.
Women are attracted to men who are at near the top of the pecking order in a group or organization.