If you look at James Bond, you will notice how he can get told off by Q and M and ordered around but he will walk out of the interaction respectfully cool, calm and collected – he knows how to pick his battles wisely and he knows where it’s worth worrying.

Doesn’t approaching a woman seem a little less intimidating now?

The reason most guys are afraid of approaching a beautiful woman is because they put her above themselves on the social ladder.

Especially if you are overweight or less popular than her.

You need to realize that no one person is above someone else – we’re all skin and bones with flaws, good skills, bad skills and we’re all equal human beings.

People also tend to make judgments about their potential for success based on their past experiences. We all want to be able to wake up every morning in a successful life.

We all want to be able to take our lives to the next level.

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A lot of people who come to me for help often have the worst outlook. They look at their relationship situation as impossible to change and are merely hopeful that they can learn to change.

The truth is that not one of us really knows what the future holds.

As I said before we constantly draw on the past to decide what we can and can’t achieve in the future. Remember what the great Henry Ford said, “Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re right.”

If you reject yourself before anyone else has a chance you, how can you ever expect to succeed?

How you perceive the world will have an incomparable effect on how well you succeed in the world.

How you act and the choices you make ultimately choose where you go in life.

What is the difference between a successful person and a failure?

When they wake up in the morning what do they do, who do they call?

When they fail how do they respond, do they have an indomitable perseverance that keeps them driving for success over and over again?

Do you see the world as an infinite number of possibilities or do you find yourself sulking over how everyone else has all the opportunities and how you have nothing because the universe has screwed you over?

This will tell you whether you have a mentality of scarcity or one of endless abundance. What you believe is based on what you have been taught, what you know, how you have been treated in society and your own beliefs. If you believe anything is possible you will be willing to do whatever it takes to make anything possible.

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You can’t expect to waste time dwelling on your failures and have that lead to success.

One good thing to look at is how you react to others.

If someone has it better than you or beats you at something do you encourage them or do you secretly despite the fact that they one-up’d you?

For example, if your friend got the girl of his dreams and you were still looking for yours, would you be happy for him or would you be jealous and have an urge to sabotage him and bring him down to your level?

If you can find a way to encourage others, your mentality and be thankful for what you DO have, you will change and you will be able to achieve even greater things for yourself.

If you’re willing to keep going and do what others refuse to do, eventually you will achieve success.

If you took a risk…

When you think about it, what’s the worst that could happen?

Now think, what’s the best that could happen?

Now line that up against what would happen if you did absolutely nothing to change anything?

Which choice would have a more profound effect? To risk it all or to try and fail?

What many of your fears can probably be shrunk down to, is a fear of not seeing the results you want.

From a young age we were taught that it is wrong to upset people and that we should do everything we can to respect people and please them which has manufactured us as a product of what others want us to be.

Really, what’s the worst that could happen if, for example, you asked out a girl?

She could say no and you’d have to find another girl? No loss at all.

The reality is that most guys haven’t been genuine and that’s why they experience failures one after the other.